Special occasions such as Valentines Day, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can be particularly difficult for those who are dealing with grief.
Special occasions such as Valentines Day, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can be particularly difficult for those who are dealing with grief. It is important to take care of yourself particularly during these times so KEMP Bereavement Team have put together some advice to help you through these events, while coping with loss.
1. Stay away from social media
Though social media is a great platform to connect with friends and family, it’s likely to feature pictures and updates from others who are celebrating the occasion. Take a few days away from the staged photos reducing your exposure to potential triggers for your grief.
2. Do something to honour your loved one
Visit their favourite place, write them a letter, light a candle, buy them flowers that you can display in your home so when you see them it reminds you of them. Spend some time thinking of the happy moments you had together – when we feel sad or low our mind will stay with the bad or upsetting memories.
3. Show yourself some self-care / self-compassion
Give yourself space and time to feel sad and go back to basics – drink lots of water, eat well, take part in some mild exercise such as yoga. Mindfulness, choosing your favourite TV show or film, focus on a hobby or reinstate old ones or listen to your favourite music. Try to limit alcohol intake and pay attention to your sleep pattern. Try to get plenty of sun light, where possible spend time outside.
4. Reach out for help with grief
If you are feeling overwhelmed, contact someone you trust to speak openly with. KEMP Hospice Family Support and Bereavement Services are here to help. If you are a resident of the Wyre Forest and have been bereaved in the last 5 years, you can make a referral or call our Bereavement Helpline on 01562 756060. Other sources of support include Samaritans or your GP. Never be afraid to ask for support, particularly when you need help with grief.
5. It’s just another day
Think about the day as any other, it’s just another day of the week. Plan the day to include your normal routine.
6. Give yourself realistic challenges
Having simple tasks to focus on can help. Maybe decluttering a room in your house or a DIY project, break the tasks down into small chunks and plan one chunk at a time – you should feel a real sense of achievement and reward for completing each chunk.
If you live in the Wyre Forest and are struggling with grief, find out more about KEMP Family Support & Bereavement Services by clicking here.